Apart from some certain blood relationships… should all relations be named ? what is d fundamental need of doing so ?
I keep wondering… why should all relations necessarily have names…? Should we not just enjoy the flow…??
Sometimes I feel, apart from our blood relationships or few specific relationships (like guru-disciple or some professional relationships), all the other people we meet, our relationship with each one of them, by default, fall under “Friend Ship”….
What is this Friendship means? What is a friend ? what is a “special” friend ;-) ?? what is more than a friend …? ;-) seems like a teenage language… but surprisingly we all use it to classify our folks…
Are we trying to give a structure or are we kind of defining boundary by giving a tag / title to the chemistry that 2 people are going to share…as in how one suppose to address the other person… what should be these two people talking about in general… how much to get involved… How much should be “physical involvement”…n blah.. blahh ..blah…
Can there exist a relation… of pure love and care… n no malice…. With no secret agenda… with no great expectations other than few basic of course..(like communication and sharing & caring)… with both of them intending to go nowhere…. But to be with each other… there is certainly belongingness but no compulsions…. a relationship where you have nothing to loose… but just yourself…
I do not know whether to call it a “Friendship” because I don’t know till what level the relations are allowed to sprout in “Friendship”… Perhaps I see much more than just friendship in this…
Can Relations not exist in absolute freedom…? I have no idea… but I see a real divine beauty in such nameless relationship…. I strongly feel, all of us must have experienced this thing…may be at different levels or with different intensities….we may not really want to accept it though… But I truly feel it does exist…
But Yess…!! one important question, are we, ourselves, at all prepared, for such kinda relationships… can we ever live in a relationship without an assurance which conventional relationships give us…
I haven't been able to figure out a name for such a relationship myself. Calling "best friends" doesn't fit well, and more than friends is too vague.
ReplyDeleteBut its beautiful, its truly a relationship where you can be yourself and with absolutely no pretense, coz there is nothing to expect and nothing to lose in it.
Check out this poem a person has written about one such relationship.
http://chevalier-seul.blogspot.com/2008/04/not-all-relations-have-names.html
Yes...for me world's beautiful relationship is "FRIENDSHIP"...I don't know why unknowingly I tend to find 'friend' in each person with whom I interact including my family members & outsides with whom I feel comfortable.....
ReplyDeleteMy dream is to create such bond to which I call "Friendship" with people all over the World...because if we will create such bond with each single individual then there is no one on this Earth to whom we will hate.....
So true, We are forever striving for relations with absolute freedom. Freedom from external factors as well as insecurities, comparisons etc. Hoping for that absolute freedom
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